BETTY'S BLOG...

 Why do teens look at their parents as though they never passed through teen's stage. They forget that before parents become parents, they didn't just grow up but were taught and guided. This young girl lives with a relative of hers. and this her aunt has a little baby of Les than a year.  One faithful day, she took the baby to her aunt's shop. As the baby slept, she left the baby and went out.  She came back hours later not to find the baby.  Now this baby woke up from sleep and cried badly. It took the intervention of neighbors to rescue the child. When this young girl returned, she looked at two elderly woman caring for her aunt's baby and said without being asked. "My aunty sent me to collect a customer's cloth but when I got there I didn't meet her"...She was now asked "Your customer's place or your boyfriend's house" without hesitating she quickly said no ooo. After few minutes, the elderly women handed the baby back to the youn...

 I have realized that to fulfill once purpose and meet up expectations, by divine forces, we have been placed in a circle of people, friends, colleagues and family members of same mindset.... It is not about the physical outlook that makes one intelligent but intelligence and character gives and takes you to better opportunities. Commitment and focus.  Really one should do away with people and things that do not have and add value to their existence. Even as one who is on a journey, what impact, good name, legacy, good will, are we depositing in people. How do you touch lives. That which you can do today, do not leave it for tomorrow. Every connection is business not just to celebrate mediocrity..A healthy competition of faith and success..let your connection be impactful all around

 we have heard this numerous times that you should keep "Third Party" away from your marriage. but I now ask my self,  outside the man and the wife, every other person is a third party and if they are kept away, how then can that marriage survive.  No man is an island entire of it's own self.keep your friends close and your enemies even closer. All third parties in marriage are very essential as they play positive or negative roles..Who are third parties: FRIENDS, SIBLINGS, EXTENDED FAMILY MEMBERS, IN-LAWS, CHILDREN, WORK COLLEAGUES, BUSINESS CLIENTS, COURSE MATES, PARENTS, RELIGIOUS LEADERS etc just remember that whatever measure of kindness or wickedness u give, u'll get in return inevitable consequences. Remember that whatever you DNT allow in your home will not gain entrance. Also remember that the 🦎 lizard can only enter the house if there's a crack on the wall  or an  opening for easy access..

 "common hygiene is every individuals right pls" I totally agree. and if those were her worries, and she feels she's not a fixer and can't try , then it's better to quit.  People's priority, choice and desire differs, same as tolerance level. She really deserves to be happy and if his bad toilet hygiene is her worst night mere, quitting is advised before she thinks of doing the unthinkable. Now to the man, fixing you up, is really a long term project. and would require all the patient in the world. really sometimes, it becomes unbearable. but for the sake of love and humanity it's advised to work on this kind of attitude else how would he cope with friends, family and colleagues at work. what kind of example will he set for the unborn. One can get irritated and even fall sick. The site is usually disgusting.   There are a few questions to be considered. Is this act intentional?  Is it a habit he grew with?  What was his upbringing like? During the period...

 

 Decent men/women will give you wonderful gifts unconditionally. No strings attached. But then your MIND must be prepared for RETURNS. Whatever you are not ready for, from the very beginning, do not accept. Have it at the back of your mind that because he or she gives you gifts and money is not automatic ticket to sex u without your permission.. Because you receive money and other gift doesn't mean u OWE him or her. and they do not OWN you.oh yes do not let anyone play on your intelligence. Don't be so weak and naive as not be able to stand and speak up for yourself.. follow your instincts. when you sense it's a TRAP, pls RETREAT. but then you can decide to proceed and enjoy the fun while it last. and be prepared to face the consequences. The feeling of REGRET is what you wouldn't want to deal with.trust me it can be worse than poison.  THinK ThRouG h.

 Where you meet your spouse sometimes can raise ill feelings especially when your partner has reasons to think u might be cheating on him or her... Imagine meeting you spouse in a club house, a bar or a brothel. This person will cherish you no doubt and has decided to leave with you regardless but influence from friends even family might want to change the love and trust u have built over the years.  imagine having a bad influence for a friend. how do u think your spouse will see you. the bad influence around you will someday remind him or her where you both started from. fear and mistrust will set in, hate speeches and abuse. Note:  Everyone can not possibly meet their partners in decent places.this is a fact that must be established. know that People take different path to life as such should be responsible for their actions. If care is not taken and one is not careful, you will loose everything you've ever worked hard to build..So anything you know that will implicate ...

Every teenager wants to explore his/her world at every given opportunity and experience things themselves. being protective sounds great but keeping them caged and being over protective is not a good one. You really can't force things on them. once their mind is set on something, they are determined to go the extra mile regardless of what you do.  Be Strict is the way of most of our parents, That's how they were brought up. We hardly bring ourselves to their level but remember that times have changed... Have you tried the other way, which is,   -BE THEIR FRIEND. sometimes, forget that you are their parent and build a friendship kind of relationship. Have a ❤️ to ❤️ talk with him or her at intervals.  - Encourage them to bring their friends home.know the friends your children keep... -Make your home conducive for them...Don't always push them away.. They should be happy and feel relaxed to be home....  This is the story of a 15 year old girl. The parents bought her a ...

Light up the season Let more love abound. Let's have more genuine friends than enemies. While you sympathize with others, also show empathy Even when their attitude towards you says otherwise, that should not define you. It should not change what makes you Unique, leave an unforgettable impact on people's mind such that in your absence they'll wish for you. Overcome people's bad deeds with good deeds. Love covers multitude of sin. Have more or high expectations for yourself and less expectations from others to avoid hurts and ❤️ break. How do you start your day? with negative words? Try making positive declarations into your life every morning and every other day. Some day those words will prevail 

 Do you sometimes feel depressed and lonely. Do you feel like no one truly loves and cares about you. do you sometimes feel like your world is crumbling down. Then it is time to go out there and be in the company of friends or people who can cheer you up. alot of people were born alone except for twins, triplets etc. even at that, it's not automatic to be happy.  Make it a duty to find joy even when situations are not smiling at you. Even when you have no genuine reason to be happy. Even when you try and DNT seem to get it right, just keep trying and in so doing you will be learning alot as well.  Choose to be happy Make yourself happy

 Parents, it's not every and anything your child wants, he or she should get.  Deprive them certain comfort and demands intentionally...it should be a deliberate act and not necessarily because u really can't afford it..Teach them to be content with what you've given them and never look else where...Do not say "if I don't give it to him or her, she'll cry. Oh no I dnt want to see him cry." Do not say " if I dnt give in to my teens demand, he will leave home for days". Dnt encourage their non-challant attitude. Bend them from little otherwise when they are grown to teens, they become unbendable. Do not say " oh he's or she's only a child.Do the talking and shouting now so that you can have rest of mind tomorrow... Don't go into self pity. Don't get offended when people genuinely correct your child. Do not support their wrong doing regardless of who's involved.

 👗 the way u want men to see you. Dress the way u want to be addressed..Don't give a wrong impression of yourself..No decent man will look for a half naked lady for a wife. Even men who are players still look for decent girls to marry.. Decency comes from the ❤️. Because you are decent doesn't mean you are naive. Because you are decent doesn't mean u don't know the in thing. Being decent doesn't mean you don't know how to enjoy life to the fullest. Many young girls have tolled the wrong way because of life circumstances and challenges but grace found them...some were never won back to life...May God's love never leave you. You can dress decently and still be a sexy mama. Oh yes.. masking from head to toe is not decency DNT get it twisted. Be decent in your dress code, makeover and speech. You can be decent and yet know the rules that guide the game. Because you are decent doesn't mean u should allow men intimidate you and rub you off your joy. Don't...

 This morning piece is centered on cleanliness... Cleanliness they say is next to godliness.. I see alot of 👩‍🦰 looking beautiful outside and well dressed but having dirty underwears. If you are privileged to visit their abode, u will nauseate. Ladies change ur undies from time to time. including your tooth brush... young boys derive joy showcasing their dirty boxers and you want that beautiful sister to look your way..think twice..I am a big boy is not by saggy 👖 Some girls smell like hell like u'll wonder if the sanitary products were mistaken....get yourself good deodorant and wear nice perfumes...Take ur bath twice a day and possibly thrice on your period...use breathable lingerie. The body needs air... 💃 Women who feel because they have birthed many children 👩‍👩‍👧‍👦so they should not care for their bodies and appearance..my darlings, this is the time to show case your talent..let ur husband know that you are still on point...DNT turn yourself to Geepee. Excersise your ...

 SIGNS to look out for  Parents be patient, open minded and friends with your children. when you notice your child is found of a man/woman who's always buying them things, pls ask questions. DNT just assume all is well. Abusers entice children with gifts. Though there are still good people around.. beware When your teenage boy/girl starts keeping away( withdrawing) from your friends, neighbors, family relative or even their colleagues.Especially if they are usually free having same person around.something is wrong  You that will travel and invite your friends son or an adult male to stay with your children till you return home. I pray you DNT regret it tomorrow. I have heard and seen cases like this. be careful. when kids complain of someone to you, pls hear them out. listen to them even if u DNT believe what they tell u. DNT trust outsiders more than you trust your family. When your children know that they can trust you as their parents, there's nothing they cannot tell...

 Speak up... Y do u isolate urself from friends and family....U find it difficult to share your thoughts with people around and feels like nobody will understand...some times, u loose ur appetite for food. But remember a problem shared is already half solved...DNT keep mute and die in silence... A closed mouth is a closed destiny..u need to talk to someone about it otherwise it will eat u up..but u must choose right...Only the sick goes to a physician some of the troubles you face today is because of bad decision making.... whatever decision you make today can make or mar u. So u really don't have to rush things. Y not be calming down.☺️. It's a matter of time and it will be over. Do you sometimes feel like giving up. Or feel like this problem is too much to bear...let me remind you that only the dead is free from the troubles of life....Death, Suicide should not even be an option. If you know jesus, talk to him in ur prayers and he'll definitely make those burdens easy..

 ...Every Child is Unique... Do you have a child who wants to be every where? A child who is never calm, always noisy and u feel like " can't u be like another"...u look at the child and call him/her stubborn (u are too STUBBORN). Hear this  - That child is the best of God's creation and should not be compared to another child. If this particular child grows up like this, he/she will have LOW SELF ESTEEM - Why do you complain of your child being busy. Always busy.....Now would you prefer that one that's dull and awkward even in appearance?...I bet you, the challenge will be burdensome... let's learn to appreciate God's work and show them love , care and understanding  - if u see/ have a child or children that are everywhere, always busy and noisy., # change your mind set.  # DNT see them as STUBBORN even when family and friends call them STUBBORN but see them as HYPER ACTIVE.   Remember there's power in spoken words. Whatever name u call a pet, that...

Know that discouragement, disappointment will come but u most be strong to face it and draw strength from the inside..DNT wait for anyone to encourage you, encourage urself...be self motivated...how strong can u be when life challenges hit u real hard...keep pushing it even when no one believes in your dreams...keep pushing it even if u fail a million times, keep pushing it until u hear and see that crack on the wall, u most not STOP until u have overcome...

 ... Food... Is anything that excites your feeling and nourishes you. Types of FUD # food for the belly I am thankful for the help of technology youtube, google search etc, no woman out there will say I can't cook. Except for the lazy one's.   😌If the money is not there for you to eat what you really want, then prepare the available. 😌 Madam change your method of cooking, the same food you cook every day can taste differently if only u make few adjustment 😘 When serving your husband's food, make it attractive. DNT serve him as if he's a beger but a king....I tell women around me, what u cannot serve ur hubby, dnt serve another man regardless of the man's social status shikina # Food for the body Good sex is like food when rightly served, u'll derive satisfaction.. Women stop being spiritual o. All these my spirit ko ko sisters, what u will not do, another senge menge( small girl for that matter) go help u o. If hubby say na for kitchen, bathroom, bedroom, pa...

 Distance relationships U most be physically, emotionally and phycologically ready and stable to start one.  Be ready to bear the pain that goes with it. No pain no gain Go into a distance relationship cos that's the last resort and not because it's  working out for your friend.....so u too must try...like I will say, better to try than not try at all. Let your cause be genuine. DNT start what u can not finish out of selfish reasons..I certainly know it has worked for many same time many relationships have gone under many waters..... wisdom is profitable to direct, in getting wisdom, get understanding

 Ladies who do you think would love you better?  1) The young man that swims in his father's wealth, affluence and glo 2) The one that went through rain and 🌞 to be who he is.. and possibly u contribute nothi 3) The one who says let's build our home together Tell me why that beautiful and charming young lady ( she has all the qualities u desire in a woman) will stay with you when u care less about her, ur ✋ is second to akaradite and you are not soft spoken(romantic in your choice of words). DNT be deceived, such relationship can not work . ... if your ex(boyfriend/girlfriend) is as good as u claim, y didn't u both get married...