Every teenager wants to explore his/her world at every given opportunity and experience things themselves. being protective sounds great but keeping them caged and being over protective is not a good one. You really can't force things on them. once their mind is set on something, they are determined to go the extra mile regardless of what you do.
Be Strict is the way of most of our parents, That's how they were brought up. We hardly bring ourselves to their level but remember that times have changed... Have you tried the other way, which is,
-BE THEIR FRIEND. sometimes, forget that you are their parent and build a friendship kind of relationship. Have a ❤️ to ❤️ talk with him or her at intervals.
- Encourage them to bring their friends home.know the friends your children keep...
-Make your home conducive for them...Don't always push them away.. They should be happy and feel relaxed to be home....
This is the story of a 15 year old girl. The parents bought her a phone and a sim pack. along the line , the mom collected the phone and broke the daughter's Sim into pieces. but guess what, the girl went out and retrieved that line secretly without the parents knowing... and u can imagine what she'll be doing but the parents will not believe how far their daughter has gone...one day, she visited and used a friend's phone to make calls after that she said," aunty my oyibo boyfriend wants to come and marry me. he'll be coming to Nigeria soon" ...😱 . Then I asked, are your parents aware and she said no.😱..let me end the story here...
Now this girl of 15 years cannot talk to her parents because she's afraid -hey mummy will skin me alive. -hey daddy will beat me...she returns home and she's sister Mary. when she goes out, she's WILD. If you ask her parents, they will swear to their heavenly father oh my daughter is a saint.... Parents I think it's time you change your style of Parenting.

That's how parents in the 80's were thought. They feared their own parents too and have used same method to train their own in this present time. You can't give what you don't have. With time, parenting style will change
ReplyDeleteI am hopeful.
DeleteMost parents are like that Betty. They should try and understand their children better
ReplyDeleteI agree with you on this Mab's.
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